Limiting self beliefs
Pre-defined self beliefs will make sure you're not waking up to the reality.
Letter 02
We learn fixed and limiting beliefs from the people in our lives and the culture we experience growing up. One of the worst outcomes of limiting beliefs is that they play so heavily on our emotions.
“Think of a young elephant tied to a stake in the ground. when it's a baby, the elephant isn't strong enough to pull the stake up, so it eventually stops trying because it learns the effort is futile. As the elephant grows, it gains enough power and strength to pull out the stake, but it remains tied up by something as inconsequential as a rope and a piece of metal buried because of what it learned as a baby. in psychology, it is called 'learned helplessness’.
Limiting beliefs imprison us and shatter us to our own possible limits. We must understand that we are solely responsible for our assumptions and attitudes.”
To grow it is a must to break the pre-defined limited beliefs. Few in my life were -
-> your business has all good customers.
-> you wasting your time is legitimate.
-> asking about solutions from other people for your own problem is very delightful.
All these are nothing but idiotic kinda beliefs, that are not very helpful in the long run.
"If you want to make the wrong decision, ask everyone' - Naval Ravikant.
'How your life unfolds is determined by your choices, and these choices originate from your belief systems, and those belief systems evolve from your predisposed roadmap. If you want to change your life, change your choices. To change your choices you must change your belief system.'
The book I read was “The Millionaire Fastlane” by MJ DeMarco [published on 2011, me reading the book 10 years later] explains the concept I am talking about in such easy and understandable words that even a teenager can depict it properly. It is the best book I have read to date on 'changing mindset in the area of financial freedom'.
To bring change in our life, we have to alter our choices. And to alter our choices, we have to change our belief system. Pre-designed belief and HOPE are the two main reasons for the fallacy we bring upon our future selves. Exactly what these two mindset constructs took over me in the past 6-7 years.
SOLUTION
The solutions to this breaking of limited self-belief came from our brain coach Jim Kwik’s book, “Limitless". He goes with the metaphor of a thermometer and thermostat.
→ Thermometer 🌡️ has only one function - to react to the environment.
→ The thermostat gauges the environment and makes the environment react to it.
The three keys he suggests to minimizing limiting beliefs are pretty straightforward.
Name your limiting belief - become aware of your negative self-talk, are they facts or opinions, they are usually wrong. Replace them with the right facts and tell yourself "just because I haven't always been good at this in the past doesn't mean that I can't be great at it now. Keep your opinion to yourself."
Get to the facts - Whenever you come against limiting beliefs, you will likely see those beliefs warring - and usually winning - against your rational self-talk. But how much of this self-talk has a basis in reality? Zero. It is so so important to face down and quiet your limiting beliefs.
Create a new belief - generate a belief that is truer and beneficial to the identity you are creating. Having a belief that is supported by facts, will provide a much healthier mindset the next time a critical situation comes along.
Our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we must be accountable for who we become.
